Have you ever wondered why you are friends with your friends? Or how you became fast friends? It got me thinking during MT's wedding last Wed. Not that i was so bored that got me wondering. In fact, MT's wedding was one of the most special i've been to. i like the duet sang by the couple and the montage delicated to their parents and of course, the tearing bride and groom during the solemnisation. The people at my table were asking how did we get acquainted. And so we started tracing who got to know who from whom, etc. i knew MT through YZ but when or under what circumstance we can't recollect. It might be when i visited YZ's room (i think i did) cos MT and YZ were hallmates or it might be after graduation when we started going to the gym. The verdict was, both YZ and i could not remember. We just know that it is through her.
Next, we (YZ, XX and i) started asking how did we know each other. One thing for sure, it was during Year 2 at CSE. Cos we were from different classes in the common 1st year. XX had got to know YZ during Year 1 cos YZ's room mate was in her class. So how did i got to know them? i vaguely remembered being allocated classes for Year 2 first semester. i did not have a common class with most people. Most of my tutorials are with random people but i remembered being in the same class as another guy which was why we pretty much hanged around for most of the semester. YZ said we happened to sit next to each other in lecture one day and so we started talking. She had thought me and that guy were an item. i remembered she told me that. And the reason why she remembered me was because she insisted that i had asked her if she was attached after knowing her for a few days. WHAT!? i don't remember that at all! And i don't think it is in me to ask someone i just know that. But she strongly believed i probably did. Come to think of it, if at that time if she had asked if that guy and i were together, i might had returned the question back to her... oh whatever....
Well, the issue is, what i really want to say is, it is fascinating how relationships branch and grow. And how they can wither and die too. i've lost almost all regular contact with my primary, secondary and probably even JC friends and ex-colleagues. Strictly speaking, i have their contact numbers so it isn't really lost contact. But we don't hang out like during that particular stage in life when we were really close. People come and go out of our lives so fast, it is hard to keep up. It's kinda sad whenever i think of the "lost" friendships. People change and in new stages of life, we make new friends and some friends drift apart naturally when they have different priorities in life, especially when they settle down. But the reality is, no matter how much we drift apart, i always cherish the times we had together and the gatherings that we have now even though they might not be frequent. i love you all, my dear friends.
Next, we (YZ, XX and i) started asking how did we know each other. One thing for sure, it was during Year 2 at CSE. Cos we were from different classes in the common 1st year. XX had got to know YZ during Year 1 cos YZ's room mate was in her class. So how did i got to know them? i vaguely remembered being allocated classes for Year 2 first semester. i did not have a common class with most people. Most of my tutorials are with random people but i remembered being in the same class as another guy which was why we pretty much hanged around for most of the semester. YZ said we happened to sit next to each other in lecture one day and so we started talking. She had thought me and that guy were an item. i remembered she told me that. And the reason why she remembered me was because she insisted that i had asked her if she was attached after knowing her for a few days. WHAT!? i don't remember that at all! And i don't think it is in me to ask someone i just know that. But she strongly believed i probably did. Come to think of it, if at that time if she had asked if that guy and i were together, i might had returned the question back to her... oh whatever....
Well, the issue is, what i really want to say is, it is fascinating how relationships branch and grow. And how they can wither and die too. i've lost almost all regular contact with my primary, secondary and probably even JC friends and ex-colleagues. Strictly speaking, i have their contact numbers so it isn't really lost contact. But we don't hang out like during that particular stage in life when we were really close. People come and go out of our lives so fast, it is hard to keep up. It's kinda sad whenever i think of the "lost" friendships. People change and in new stages of life, we make new friends and some friends drift apart naturally when they have different priorities in life, especially when they settle down. But the reality is, no matter how much we drift apart, i always cherish the times we had together and the gatherings that we have now even though they might not be frequent. i love you all, my dear friends.
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